In addition, while you have a lot of control over things, once that baby pops out, it's not up to you to say you don't want the dad in the baby's life.  While courts are disgustingly prejudice against men in family court, he still would have some rights to be in the child's life, if HE chooses, not you.

do what you fel is right, and see where things go, but definetly take legal action against him.

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People don't call an Ambulance because they did something right.

If you intend to keep this child, I would advise you to try and get on as good a terms as you can with the dad.  No one ever wins a fight of hostility.

You still sound a little on the fence as to what you want to do, which is understandable.  No one should have to go through this alone.  If you're concerned about your parents overly influencing you, you might contact a place like Planned Parenthood and one  of many other pregnancy councelling agencies.  They don't promote abortion; they advise you of your options and have a lot of experience, so they can give you some idea of what each choice is like.

If you'd like help find such a place, pm me and I'll look into it for you.

I would say first decide on what you want to do.  Then if the bf is threatening in any real way, go to the police.

Also, at some point you need to share this situation with your parents.  While I understand you not wanting them to influence your decision, I do think it's important to tell them asap, especially if you expect problems from your ex.

feel free to pm me if you'd like.

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he's still a kid himself... He's 16 has no job lives in a shanty and his dad is a recovery addict with a record. He's expressed he doesn't want kids because he's scared of being triggered abuse issues. He has too many issues to be involved or even want to I'm more worried if he'll turn violent because he hates this baby and wants it to die. If that ever happened that he claimed he was at a point where he could see our kid. I would analyze the situation. I know maybe like in 4 years things could change idk....

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IMO you're thinking too far ahead.  It sounds as though you're not entirely sure what you want to do and it would be terribly difficult to make this decision alone.  I really would encourage you to go for counselling and tell your parents.

If you decide to carry to term, you need to start building a support network right away.  I strongly hope you'll talk to someone about it.

again, if you want help finding an agency, pm me.

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I am going to have counselling

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Good for you.  good choice.