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So we were talking tonight. I really want to be a stay at home mom and wife. It just is not feasable in this economy without my husband going into the military full time. What I cannot decide is if having him go into the military as a career, is worth it. AS I HAVE SAID IN PREVIOUS THREADS, He is planning to go into the military either way. He is right now planning on going reserves, and eventually full time. Regardless of what I decide whether or not I decide to stay home, he is going into the military! I really hate being away from him and would absolutely suffer through deployments but it would guarantee me the ability to be a stay at home mom and wife. He is going into the military either way. My decision is whether or not it would be worth it to stay home and have to constantly think about him being home, or work and try to keep my mind off of it. My husband wants to join the military, I am not forcing him to do so, just so I can be a stay at home, which shouldn't even need to be said.
So, is it worth it to stay home?  Post edited at 3:22 pm on Feb. 5, 2012 by Hunnies
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we are dirt poor and im planning on being a stay at home mom. id rather raise my kids then someone do it for me. i might clean 2-3 days a week until i decide to have a second baby but after that i wont work. i dont think life is about things but more about being with those you love. we dont need cable, internet, or a fancy house.
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Quote: from Cenere at 9:24 pm on Feb. 4, 2012
 Personally, for me, it's it not worth it. Just so I can stay home full time? No thank you. Tbh, I think it's kind of selfish. Of course it's your decision and all, but if I were in your place, I wouldn't. It's extremely selfish imo. 
How is it selfish? It is his dream to be in the military. I am the only thing keeping him from being there full time. If I have children, I want to be there for them 24/7 until they go to school, at which time I will take a part time job.
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Quote: from Cenere at 9:24 pm on Feb. 4, 2012
Personally, for me, it's it not worth it. Just so I can stay home full time? No thank you. Tbh, I think it's kind of selfish. Of course it's your decision and all, but if I were in your place, I wouldn't. It's extremely selfish imo.
this. if you think that staying home full time for your kids is what will be best for them, fine, but you should hold off on having kids then, and work your ass off now until you are financially stable enough to do this. that means being financially prepare above and beyond. your husband has a right to less work and more time with a family as well, and you should be considering his feelings too.
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Quote: from OzzysGirl at 9:24 pm on Feb. 4, 2012
we are dirt poor and im planning on being a stay at home mom. id rather raise my kids then someone do it for me. i might clean 2-3 days a week until i decide to have a second baby but after that i wont work. i dont think life is about things but more about being with those you love. we dont need cable, internet, or a fancy house.
I will NOT raise my children in poverty because I decide to stay home when I am capable of working.
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It's is pretty selfish not just to your husband but to your child. My dad was in the air force and my uncle the marines growing up we moved from state to state and my mom and aunt were left alone while my dad and uncle were deported to places like the Phillipines (sp?), Kosovo, Hawaii, and Afghanistan. My uncle was en route to Iraq when he was diagnosed with cancer so he didn't go. So be ready for him not to be there with his child much. And contrary to popular belief the Armed forces don't support the wives and children of dead soldiers. They fight for every penny they get from the government so God forbid that happen, you'd be left to figure things out yourself. Good luck
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Quote: from justbadnews at 9:31 pm on Feb. 4, 2012
Quote: from Cenere at 9:24 pm on Feb. 4, 2012
Personally, for me, it's it not worth it. Just so I can stay home full time? No thank you. Tbh, I think it's kind of selfish. Of course it's your decision and all, but if I were in your place, I wouldn't. It's extremely selfish imo.
this. if you think that staying home full time for your kids is what will be best for them, fine, but you should hold off on having kids then, and work your ass off now until you are financially stable enough to do this. that means being financially prepare above and beyond. your husband has a right to less work and more time with a family as well, and you should be considering his feelings too.
How am I not considering his feelings? He wants to go into the military, and is only doing reserves now because he knows I am not fully onboard yet. I am well past financially stable, but having the money to stay at home for 10 years or more isnt a necessity or realistic to save before having a child.
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Quote: from Victor Seven at 6:36 pm on Feb. 4, 2012
Quote: from OzzysGirl at 9:24 pm on Feb. 4, 2012
we are dirt poor and im planning on being a stay at home mom. id rather raise my kids then someone do it for me. i might clean 2-3 days a week until i decide to have a second baby but after that i wont work. i dont think life is about things but more about being with those you love. we dont need cable, internet, or a fancy house.
I will NOT raise my children in poverty because I decide to stay home when I am capable of working.
our income may be poverty level but we dont go without anything that we need. we live in a modest apartment and provide for our basic needs. we dont need anything else accept each other.
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Quote: from chava89 at 9:37 pm on Feb. 4, 2012
It's is pretty selfish not just to your husband but to your child. My dad was in the air force and my uncle the marines growing up we moved from state to state and my mom and aunt were left alone while my dad and uncle were deported to places like the Phillipines (sp?), Kosovo, Hawaii, and Afghanistan. My uncle was en route to Iraq when he was diagnosed with cancer so he didn't go. So be ready for him not to be there with his child much. And contrary to popular belief the Armed forces don't support the wives and children of dead soldiers. They fight for every penny they get from the government so God forbid that happen, you'd be left to figure things out yourself. Good luck
So it is selfish to allow my husband to fulfill his dream of being a career solider? I understand that he may be away at times, but that doesn't mean he isn't necessarily there for his child. You ignorantly act like I am twisting his arm and forcing him into the military. He is going in either way, but he is still trying to decide if he is going into reserves or going career. I still have to decide what I tell him. My word has part, by far from a good portion of pull in this decision. I do not care about death benefits. I think it is absolutely disgusting that you think that I care about what they do and do not give. I am more than capable of caring for myself and children, but whether or not I decide to stay at home is something I need to consider.
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Quote: from Victor Seven at 9:31 pm on Feb. 4, 2012
Quote: from Cenere at 9:24 pm on Feb. 4, 2012
Personally, for me, it's it not worth it. Just so I can stay home full time? No thank you. Tbh, I think it's kind of selfish. Of course it's your decision and all, but if I were in your place, I wouldn't. It's extremely selfish imo.
How is it selfish? It is his dream to be in the military. I am the only thing keeping him from being there full time. If I have children, I want to be there for them 24/7 until they go to school, at which time I will take a part time job.
Well for starters you didn't say that it was his dream, or that you were holding him back.
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Quote: from Victor Seven at 9:39 pm on Feb. 4, 2012
Quote: from justbadnews at 9:31 pm on Feb. 4, 2012
Quote: from Cenere at 9:24 pm on Feb. 4, 2012
Personally, for me, it's it not worth it. Just so I can stay home full time? No thank you. Tbh, I think it's kind of selfish. Of course it's your decision and all, but if I were in your place, I wouldn't. It's extremely selfish imo.
this. if you think that staying home full time for your kids is what will be best for them, fine, but you should hold off on having kids then, and work your ass off now until you are financially stable enough to do this. that means being financially prepare above and beyond. your husband has a right to less work and more time with a family as well, and you should be considering his feelings too.
How am I not considering his feelings? He wants to go into the military, and is only doing reserves now because he knows I am not fully onboard yet. I am well past financially stable, but having the money to stay at home for 10 years or more isnt a necessity or realistic to save before having a child.
well then do it. no one's stopping you. if it is all good to you, and he wants to be in the military and doesn't mind raising a military family and sacrificing some time with them to do such, go for it. personally, i will have my house paid for and the college education paid for before i squeeze the sucker out, my financial investment plan is designed with the intention of retiring around 45 so that my family will be priority #1. there are definitely benefits to waiting, and you are young enough to reap those benefits.
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